DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE breaking up with my girlfriend a year ago, moving on has been impossible.
As soon as I think I’m making some kind of progress, we find ourselves in bed again, then when she leaves, I’m left feeling hurt and rejected.
I’m 38, she’s 34 and we were together for five years.
It was a mutual decision to break up as we had both become very unhappy. We were arguing non-stop and our sex life had become non-existent.
Despite that, we still wanted to be in each other’s lives so we decided to remain friends.
I really did believe we could make it work, but it wasn’t long before we started falling into bed together.
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Every time we had sex a part of me always hoped it would lead to us getting back together.
Yet every time I’ve brought up the prospect of rekindling she has shut me down.
At this point, I know this is not a healthy relationship but I have no idea how to end the cycle.
I know she doesn’t want me, but I’m having a hard time letting go.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Being rejected is painful but your ex sounds as though her mind is made up.
Remember it takes two to make a relationship work, so if she’s unwilling to mend things, it’s best you try to move on.
While some exes can maintain a healthy friendship, it’s clear that this is harming your mental health more than it’s worth.
I’m sending you my support packs Mend Your Broken Heart and Moving On to help.