AN Irish sex expert has revealed how Irish people can have the best bonk ever, saying: “It’s not just about mechanics”.
Jenny Keane, 37, from Dublin, has shared her top hacks to improve your sex life.
The Holistic Sex Educator told us: “Great sex isn’t just about mechanics, it’s about connection, curiosity, discovery and learning how to put creativity and play back at the centre of your bedroom antics.
“I have hundred of tips for better sex so I will give you my top three.”
1. Get out of your head and into your body
Jenny noted the importance of paying attention to what feels good to you, and getting out of your head.
She said: “When we talk about pleasure or orgasm we are talking about noticing the sensations that feel good in your body.
“If you’re stuck in your head, worrying about how you look or whether you’re “doing it right,” you’re missing out on sensation.”
She recommends learning to focus on how things feel by turning into things like the warmth of touch, the rhythm of breath and the pleasure of your body moving.
In turn, this can help ground you into your body – the more present you are, the more sensation you will feel and the better the experience.
2. Know what turns you on (and off)
It’s important to know what feels good to you, and this can be done by exploring your own body.
Self pleasure is a powerful way to discover what you like, the type of touch, pressure and rhythm sets the mood, and if music or certain lighting helps to set the mood.
Jenny said: “It’s about creating an erotic environment that allows you to fully relax and sink into pleasure.
“When you understand what truly works for you, bringing that confidence into partnered experiences becomes so much easier and so much more enjoyable.”
3. Mix it up
It’s important to spice it up and not fall into certain rhythms or habits.
Jenny said: “If you know what’s coming then over time other priorities like sleep and relaxing in front of Netflix is going to trump intimacy.
“Couples fall into rhythms and habits together and this is normal so it is important to learn to make even small changes.”
Examples of novel acts could be trying a new position, a new setting, experimenting with erotic talk or sharing a sexual fantasy.
They don’t have to be extreme, but by implementing these small changes can bring fresh energy and a feeling of excitement into the relationship.
In conclusion, Jenny noted: “Self-pleasure, pay attention to what excites you, and don’t be afraid to bring that knowledge into
partnered sex.
“When you know what works for you, it’s so much easier to have a great experience with someone else.”
Sex Ed
Jenny was living in California when she first started attending sex education classes, noting that working in that career path “wasn’t even on the map” in Ireland.
She said: “I was living in California when I first started attending sex education classes, simply wanting to learn more about my own body. From menstruation to orgasm, I was filling in gaps I hadn’t even realised were there.”
She took a number of workshops before attending training, studying trauma therapy, somatic therapy and sex therapy.
After spending time in these settings she realised that people struggled with intimacy due to a lack of basic sex education.
She started studying sex education, and then held workshops in Ireland from 2016, and had 20,000 women in her Orgasm Online workshop in 2020.
WellFest 2025
You can see Jenny at this years WellFest, taking place on May 10 and 11 in IMMA at the Royal Hospital Kilmainham in Dublin 8.
The lineup for Ireland’s largest outdoor health and wellness festival includes the Kardashians personal trainer DB DONAMATRIX, mental health activist and trainer Get Better with Chris, bestselling author and nutritionist Em the Nutritionist, Nike trainer Dr Rebekah Jade, and Olympian athlete Nadia Power.
Day tickets start from €74, while weekend tickets cost from €88 plus booking fee.
Tickets are available at wellfest.ie